Meeting in person is an exciting step to building a relationship, but don’t let your excitement outweigh your caution in approaching the situation. Please follow these guidelines for at least the first few dates to help keep you safe. Always remember to use your common sense and follow your instincts.
When You’re Ready: Take your time getting to know each other through our Service, using us as a buffer. The “right time” to meet is when you both feel comfortable and feel you have a good basic knowledge and understanding of the other person.
Transportation: Use your own mode of transportation to go to and from the meeting and anywhere in between. This gives you the flexibility to leave when you wish and also keeps the other person from knowing where you live or work. If you ever feel like someone is following you, go directly to the nearest police or fire station and/or call 911.
Location: Choose a public place to meet during a time where plenty of people will be around. Stay in a public place at all times. Even if you feel a strong connection, do not go home with them. It is best to return alone to your known and safe environment.
Tell a Friend: Tell a family member or a friend when, with whom, and where you are going to meet and what time you expect to be home. Agree to notify them if plans change and to notify them when you safely return home.
Stay Sober: Limit alcohol consumption or abstain entirely. It is important to keep a clear mind to better judge situations and to keep safe. Be wary of someone who keeps encouraging you to drink or insists on giving you multiple alcoholic beverages. Be aware that someone may try to take advantage of you in an impaired state and may even try to impair you by adding synthetic substances to your drink. If the person you are meeting with behaves like they are drunk or impaired, you can help them call a friend or a taxi but do not take it upon yourself to take them home. If their behavior makes you uncomfortable or feel unsafe, it is okay to leave without explanation.
Watch Your Belongings: Take a fully charged cell phone with you and keep it on your person at all times. Don’t leave personal items unattended that may contain items with your personal information on them, like your driver’s license, checks and credit cards.
If in Doubt, Leave: If at any time you feel uncomfortable, uneasy or unsafe, you should leave. You do not have to give an explanation and it does not matter what the other person might think. What matters is trusting your instinct and acting accordingly.
Call For Help: If at any time you or another person are threatened, harassed, attacked or your health is in danger, immediately call 911. If something has happened and you’re in need of help, support or advice pertaining to physical or sexual assault, please call the below hotlines. They are there for you 24 hours a day.
Rape, Abuse and Incest National Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673); www.rainn.org
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233); www.thehotline.org
We hope you find these guidelines useful. Please refer back to them as needed and whenever you consider meeting someone in person. You can always contact us with any concerns.
Now, go see what love is able to do and stay safe!